Campus Suicide and the Pressure of Perfection

The fact is humans struggle regardless of how perfect  your life may seem on social media
(see this http://fh.house.upenn.edu/node/6672)

This New York Times piece talks about Campus Suicide and the Pressure of Perfection

my take from it is that if we want to avoid pressure from perfection, we need to do the following:

  1. Do not try to please others (The pressure to appear “perfect” and happy to others, even when anxious or upset)
  2. See failure as lessons instead of setbacks
  3. Do not determine your worth based on comparing with others’ accomplishment
  4. Do not see your identity as what you have accomplished 

And one interesting point is that some people in Taiwan praise western parents’ education style and say that those parents set their children free but this article implies in the US Parents with a perfectionism standard being too involved in their adolescent children’s lives and decision-making

priority priority priority

這篇寫的很有洞察

回台大後就是priority!
首先當然能的話找到個適合的教會/團契,
接下來課業部分要顧好,然後開學前確定是要把重心擺哪裡,
Mckinsey? BCG? Bizpro? CEP? 把四個的份量搞清楚(同時搞清楚能否找到社群),然後確定哪個擺第一順位
當然適當運動還是很重要,打羽球、跑步、游泳、健身。

具體成為更好的人

每個步驟都要思考、設計過,學習起來才進步的有效率 (看看別人怎麼做)
Deliberate practice is characterized by several elements, each worth examining. It is activity designed specifically to improve performance, often with a teacher’s help; it can be repeated a lot; feedback on results is continuously available; it’s highly demanding mentally, whether the activity is purely intellectual, such as chess or business-related activities, or heavily physical, such as sports; and it isn’t much fun.

方案可以自己設計,現在是自學時代 (別人可以,你也行!)
With or without a teacher, great performers deconstruct elements of what they do into chunks they can practice. They get better at that aspect and move on to the next.

一定要保持意識,檢視自己所做的事情是不是有效、有效率、有進步
Practicing something without knowing whether you are getting better is pointless. Yet that is what most of us do everyday without thinking.

過程會很辛苦,但就像訓練一樣,最後會變成更好的人!「什麼都不做只會滋生恐懼和懷疑;行動則能產生信心和勇氣。如果你想克服恐懼,別只坐在家裡擔心。走出去,讓自己忙起來。」卡內基如是說。