The fact is humans struggle regardless of how perfect your life may seem on social media
(see this http://fh.house.upenn.edu/node/6672)
This New York Times piece talks about Campus Suicide and the Pressure of Perfection
my take from it is that if we want to avoid pressure from perfection, we need to do the following:
- Do not try to please others (The pressure to appear “perfect” and happy to others, even when anxious or upset)
- See failure as lessons instead of setbacks
- Do not determine your worth based on comparing with others’ accomplishment
- Do not see your identity as what you have accomplished
And one interesting point is that some people in Taiwan praise western parents’ education style and say that those parents set their children free but this article implies in the US Parents with a perfectionism standard being too involved in their adolescent children’s lives and decision-making
Mckinsey? BCG? Bizpro? CEP? 把四個的份量搞清楚（同時搞清楚能否找到社群），然後確定哪個擺第一順位，
Deliberate practice is characterized by several elements, each worth examining. It is activity designed specifically to improve performance, often with a teacher’s help; it can be repeated a lot; feedback on results is continuously available; it’s highly demanding mentally, whether the activity is purely intellectual, such as chess or business-related activities, or heavily physical, such as sports; and it isn’t much fun.
With or without a teacher, great performers deconstruct elements of what they do into chunks they can practice. They get better at that aspect and move on to the next.
Practicing something without knowing whether you are getting better is pointless. Yet that is what most of us do everyday without thinking.