“I don’t think he makes friends easily, but he is very loyal to those he has,”
“We are the kinds of people that can be by ourselves at a party and not feel awkward,” Farooq said. “We can think to ourselves and not feel socially weird about it.”
When Elon gets into something, he develops just this different level of interest in it than other people. That is what differentiates Elon from the rest of humanity.”
Musk did not make many friends among the broader school body. It’s difficult to find former students who remember him being there at all. But he did make one very close friend named Adeo Ressi, who would go on to be a Silicon Valley entrepreneur in his own right and is to this day as tight with Elon as anyone.
“Elon was the most straight-laced dude you have ever met. He never drank. He never did anything. Zero. Literally nothing.”
“By providing multiple ways to attain the goal, we’re actually forcing people to stop and think and make a choice instead of giving them a straightforward path to rush to the end,”
customers who were required to make purchases in a strict order of six flavors in a yogurt shop’s loyalty program were more likely to complete the purchases of these flavors to earn a reward than those who were given the flexibility to choose their own order of purchases of the same six flavors of yogurt.
“People fail to realize that relatively rigid structures can often simplify goal pursuit by removing the need to make choices, especially when people are already well into the process”
Many types of organizations typically give customers and donors multiple choices without adjusting them as their clients approach their goals, Huang notes. Companies running loyalty programs give members sitting on thousands of points many ways to keep earning more. The risk is not that they will never turn in their points, but that they will stop purchasing from the company altogether because their motivation to earn more points in the program is weakened by the overwhelming options. Nonprofits let patrons donate in various ways, and even late in a fundraising campaign as the organization approaches its goal. Instead, Huang says, organizations should consider narrowing the options once a goal is within reach.
“When customers are in the advanced stage, you’re dealing with a completely different animal,” Huang says, “so we can’t be static in our communications or in our design of loyalty programs and promotions. It’s a dynamic process.”
hope this would not be just saying but realization
The fact is humans struggle regardless of how perfect your life may seem on social media
(see this http://fh.house.upenn.edu/node/6672)
This New York Times piece talks about Campus Suicide and the Pressure of Perfection
my take from it is that if we want to avoid pressure from perfection, we need to do the following:
- Do not try to please others (The pressure to appear “perfect” and happy to others, even when anxious or upset)
- See failure as lessons instead of setbacks
- Do not determine your worth based on comparing with others’ accomplishment
- Do not see your identity as what you have accomplished
And one interesting point is that some people in Taiwan praise western parents’ education style and say that those parents set their children free but this article implies in the US Parents with a perfectionism standard being too involved in their adolescent children’s lives and decision-making