Elon Musk: The College Years

http://www.esquire.com/entertainment/books/a35508/elon-musk-college-years-canada-u-penn/

“I don’t think he makes friends easily, but he is very loyal to those he has,”

“We are the kinds of people that can be by ourselves at a party and not feel awkward,” Farooq said. “We can think to ourselves and not feel socially weird about it.”

When Elon gets into something, he develops just this different level of interest in it than other people. That is what differentiates Elon from the rest of humanity.”

Musk did not make many friends among the broader school body. It’s difficult to find former students who remember him being there at all. But he did make one very close friend named Adeo Ressi, who would go on to be a Silicon Valley entrepreneur in his own right and is to this day as tight with Elon as anyone.

“Elon was the most straight-laced dude you have ever met. He never drank. He never did anything. Zero. Literally nothing.”

Research: Too Many Choices Can Derail Success

https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/research-too-many-choices-can-derail-success

“By providing multiple ways to attain the goal, we’re actually forcing people to stop and think and make a choice instead of giving them a straightforward path to rush to the end,”

customers who were required to make purchases in a strict order of six flavors in a yogurt shop’s loyalty program were more likely to complete the purchases of these flavors to earn a reward than those who were given the flexibility to choose their own order of purchases of the same six flavors of yogurt.

“People fail to realize that relatively rigid structures can often simplify goal pursuit by removing the need to make choices, especially when people are already well into the process”

Many types of organizations typically give customers and donors multiple choices without adjusting them as their clients approach their goals, Huang notes. Companies running loyalty programs give members sitting on thousands of points many ways to keep earning more. The risk is not that they will never turn in their points, but that they will stop purchasing from the company altogether because their motivation to earn more points in the program is weakened by the overwhelming options. Nonprofits let patrons donate in various ways, and even late in a fundraising campaign as the organization approaches its goal. Instead, Huang says, organizations should consider narrowing the options once a goal is within reach.

“When customers are in the advanced stage, you’re dealing with a completely different animal,” Huang says, “so we can’t be static in our communications or in our design of loyalty programs and promotions. It’s a dynamic process.”

發表言論

Jean Liu:「我通常是不會以誰想不想聽什麼樣的言論,當作自己是否該發表言論的判斷標準的。唯一的標準,其實只有我自己怎麼想,自己想不想講,以及決定什麼時候講而已。對我有任何錯誤期待的人,就省省吧。」

Campus Suicide and the Pressure of Perfection

The fact is humans struggle regardless of how perfect  your life may seem on social media
(see this http://fh.house.upenn.edu/node/6672)

This New York Times piece talks about Campus Suicide and the Pressure of Perfection

my take from it is that if we want to avoid pressure from perfection, we need to do the following:

  1. Do not try to please others (The pressure to appear “perfect” and happy to others, even when anxious or upset)
  2. See failure as lessons instead of setbacks
  3. Do not determine your worth based on comparing with others’ accomplishment
  4. Do not see your identity as what you have accomplished 

And one interesting point is that some people in Taiwan praise western parents’ education style and say that those parents set their children free but this article implies in the US Parents with a perfectionism standard being too involved in their adolescent children’s lives and decision-making

被討厭的勇氣

http://www.books.com.tw/web/sys_serialtext/?item=0010653153&page=6

〈割捨別人的課題〉

哲學家 那些因為親子關係而苦惱的父母,往往認為「孩子就是我人生的一切」,把孩子的課題都當成是自己的,全部攬在身上。無時無刻不想著孩子的結果,就是當他回過神來,人生中的「自我」已經消失不見。

只是,無論怎樣把孩子的課題全部背負在身上,孩子畢竟是獨立的個體,不是每件事都會依照父母的心意。不管是念書、就業、找結婚對象,或是一些日常生活中的小細節,都不可能完全如父母所願去行動。當然,父母會擔心,也會想介入,可是剛才我也說過,「別人不是為了滿足你的期望而活」。就算是自己的孩子,也不是為了滿足父母的期望而活。

年輕人 連家人之間都要劃清界線嗎?

哲學家 其實越是關係親近的家人,越需要刻意將課題切割開來。

年輕人 這太可笑了!老師,您一方面談論愛,另一方面卻否定愛!如果依照您的做法和別人劃清界線的話,豈不是沒有人可以相信了嗎?!

哲學家 你聽清楚了,所謂的「相信」,其實也是一種課題分離的行為。相信別人,這是你的課題;可是別人對你的期望或信任要怎麼反應,卻是別人的課題。如果不把握這個分際、劃清界線,還要一意孤行地將自己的期望強行加諸在別人身上,立刻會變成一種騷擾式的「介入」。

假設對方並沒有如我們所希望的那樣去行動,你還能不能相信他?還能不能愛他嗎?阿德勒所說的「愛的任務」之中,就包含了這樣的提問。

出國退健保、沒保險、沒做好安全防範

http://udn.com/news/story/3/1008029
裡面提到,他退健保(意思是不願共同承擔,失去保險的初衷),再加上出國自己也沒保國外的險(沒有防患意識)

鄉民說法:「楊成效是自己耍白目,澳洲政府明明就有規劃好安全的攀登路線,偏偏這個台灣傻子,就喜歡亂爬,還上了澳洲電視新聞,成為笑柄….(澳洲人會不會覺得台灣人就是這樣不守規矩?)」

http://www.skynews.com.au/news/national/2015/06/13/man-rescued-from-uluru-crevice.html

小結:出國若要退健保,就要有不再使用的決心;然後一定要保國外的險;然後不要白目